Sometimes people say something to you to please you. Well, most of the time actually. Not that they will get some sort of appreciations from you or anything. But it's just an unspoken rule. If they speak good things about you, they would expect you to do exactly the same when the time comes for you to speak something about them. It's more like an investment. I sow the seeds in you and I will reap the fruits later. No need to be now. I'll eat the fruits when I'm hungry.
But it is justifiable? Is it the right thing to do? I mean, from the bird's eye view, it seems a perfect thing to do. Isn't it...? I mean, c'mon! Don't you want people to speak good and nice and lovey-dovey and mushy-mushy things about you...? Simple, just tell how good they are, be it in front of themselves or to other people, and voila! They will do the same to you! Not that you are succumbing to him or anything. It's just the right thing to do...!
It always pisses me off, without fail, knowing that people actually do that in anticipation I would do the same. I mean, hallo...?? What's the purpose of dakwah then...? Are you not supposed to forbid the evil and enjoin the good? Are you not supposed to forewarn people around you about the dangers they are facing before it's too late to do so? And how do you go about with it again? Exactly!!! By telling the truth, the damn bloody bitter truth, on their face...! Easy.
"Berkata benarlah walaupun ia pahit."
This post really is for myself. Although I'm sure you guys will benefit from it, Insha-Allah.
Coz the very person whom you have to tell the truth first before anyone else is YOURSELF.